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Please help: Allegations on my 17 year old son

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I have a 17 year old child that is a hit with the smaller children in our new neighborhood. They follow him, want him to play with him and so forth. He is full of energy so he enjoys playing with the children. 

 

Recently I've had an issue with our next door neighbor. My son "back talked" her one day and she has had it out for him since then. One afternoon several children were playing outside and HER daughter started pinching the boys butts (the daughter is 9). All of the children thought it was funny and started doing that to one another. The neighbor went ballistic on my son and she and my husband talked about it and from my understanding the situation was rectified. My son was told that he was no longer allowed to play with any children under the age of 13. 

 

10 days later there were some boys in her backyard jumping on the trampoline. She told my son that he was welcome to go jump with them. A few minutes later I called him and told him to go home. Shortly after he left, her ex whom I have never laid eyes on before, came to my door when I was not home and threatened my son. He told him that he "molested" the girl and he would "mop the street with him". I was on my way home. The police were called and the man was issued a criminal trespass warning. They also issued a trespass warning to my son and said he was not allowed at their home. He explained to the officer that he was invited and the officer said it doesn't matter... just stay away from their home to avoid conflict. So he has done just that. 

 

Since this has happened, this woman has gone up and down our street telling the neighbors that my son is a pedophile and molested her daughter. She has told the girl that it is okay to say these things and she even went to the school and told kids in school that she was molested. Several of the neighborhood parents have approached me saying that they were there during the "hiney pinching" incident and they have known her long enough to know that she causes trouble in the neighborhood at least once a year.

 

She told one of the other neighbors that "the legal issues arent over yet". I am so worried that she and her daughter have been going around fabricating all these stories so that they can cause trouble for my son. She is 30 and still thinks life is high school from my understanding. She lives with her mother and has a record of drug use and dwi's. She even hit a woman while drunk and caused the woman to miscarry! Unknowingly, I've moved into crazy ghetto town I guess (I've only had my home 11 months).

 

What do I do if he's falsely accused and arrested??

Can I sue her for defamation or slander?

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What do I do if he's falsely accused and arrested?

 

If he's arrested (falsely or otherwise), you should look into bailing him out and finding a lawyer to represent him.  If he's merely accused, what you do would depend on the particular circumstances.

 

 

 

Can I sue her for defamation or slander?

 

Anyone can sue anyone for anything.  However, she's defamed your son, not you (which isn't to say you can't sue on his behalf since he's a minor, but since he's 17 it might be better to wait until he's an adult and he can sue in his own name).  Whether pouring money into a civil lawsuit would be worthwhile is something about which you might consider consulting with a local attorney.  A lawsuit might serve to exacerbate -- rather than solve -- the problem.

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You are free to pay a lawyer to send her a "cease and desist" letter and demand that she retract her careless statements and fabrications when the reality is that she couldn't expect all the kids who witnessed interactions to lie. I'd send a letter only after a critical unbiased assessment about whether she's more or less likely to wig out in reaction and do something more nuts. Then again, most folks who assert a kid has been molested don't wait to seek police intervention. (If she thinks there is a viable lawsuit based on bald assertions and no criminal prosecution, then she's simply ignorant.)

"She even hit a woman while drunk and caused the woman to miscarry! Unknowingly, I've moved into crazy ghetto town I guess (I've only had my home 11 months)."

First, I trust you are making a statement of fact based on having personally viewed court records v. possibly recklessly repeating statements you've heard. Otherwise, you're doing the same-similar thing as she. Second, you may have made reckless real estate pur hase without any due diligence that folks can and should do before picking a neighborhood. Not something you couldn't have known ahead of time. Lastly, given folks tend to misuse the word "ghetto", some care might be desired there as well.

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