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  1. Don't say it, everybody. I already know---cold, cruel, cunning, and calculating. It almost feels like a fall from grace for me. The sad thing is I don't care anymore. It's as if I want to inflict as much hurt as possible as I'm going down in flames. Once upon a time, this wasn't like me, but it seems to be now. "I would rather die at your feet of massive thirst than to accept the bottle of water in your hand that could save my life. I meant nothing to you." End of thread. Goodbye
  2. You know what? I don't think this is really as much now about money as it is something else. I realize I need to take control of my own life, and I don't expect people to give me handouts. However, my family dynamics have been what they have been for too long. I've already severed ties with my sister. I already know she won't miss me. Her life will be just as happy and fulfilling without my being in it. Life goes on, but my family is finished. Happily ever after does indeed fail, maybe more often than we realize.
  3. I didn't know enough about the situation with Dad's will to make any kind of call on it. He was never known for being organized. This is a very very bitter pill to swallow. It has caused harm on multiple levels. I actually feel like I'm now grieving two losses. This big mishap might as well be the catalyst that puts the final nail in the coffin of mine and my sister's relationship. We're done.
  4. You have no idea how insulting it is to hear you say that! I was a caregiver to my Dad. Therefore, it didn't leave me a whole lot of time for a job outside of the house. I was not at all taking advantage of my Dad monetarily. In the end, we were helping each other because we both had needs. I specifically remember his saying what he wanted to do. My sister and her husband already owned one house in Virginia. She also inherited a 2nd house in another part of Virginia from another deceased relative. My Dad told me that he would leave his house in North Carolina where he lived for over three decades to me. I would have been willing to split whatever I got for his house with my sister, but all of that is academic now. My Dad apparently hadn't looked at his will for years, so he really didn't have any idea in the end what details were in it. Apparently, he did not realize that the wishes he expressed to me just before his death would have needed to be added in a revised version of his will. That was never done, and my sister got a third house. I'm guessing she was able to sell it for around $200,000 given the market value of property in that part of North Carolina. As for me, I got $27,000 from a bank account. How equal does that sound to you? I guess I should be thankful I got anything at all.
  5. If I'm mad at anything, it's the situation. Dad's will was carried out using outdated information. He never went back and updated his wishes. My sister had already inherited a house from another deceased relative. Now, she inherited a third and was able to sell it almost immediately for what I'm sure was a nice chunk of change. Forgive me for feeling betrayed. I'm assuming there's nothing else I can do now to contest the outcome. Since Dad never put in writing what he verbally told me before his death, then what WAS in writing is what has to be done. I'm sorry, but I'm livid about this right now. It feels like a spit in the face for me. I could have used at least a little of the money from whatever my sister got for the house to have a little bit more of a financial cushion as I try to get my life back together in Northern Virginia. I've lost more than just an opportunity here. This has left an ugly sore on my heart.
  6. How often should a person check and/or update his will? My Dad passed away last March, and I noticed his will was created in 2008---11 years ago. I don't know how often he updated it. Actually, I don't think he had done anything to it for years. My reason for thinking that is because he told me just before his death that he was going to leave his house to me. However, he apparently never changed his will to reflect those wishes before he died. What ended up happening was my sister got the house instead, and all the sale amount for it, I'm guessing $200K. It's hard now not to feel like I was misled. This ordeal has now caused animosity with my sister. I'm feeling pretty hurt right now.
  7. Right now, this isn't a priority. I just lost my father.
  8. That's interesting. I wonder if that's why staff from there were involved in this project. I wouldn't be surprised.
  9. Florida, North Carolina, or both? I even saw an address on one piece of my paperwork that listed a staffing agency in Alabama. WTF??!!
  10. Yeah, I guess so. I don't have a choice now. Here are some examples of the forms I did complete. I've included one of my time sheets and a sample 1099. An amount of $3858 in Box 7 was the only amount listed. If I had known before I started this job that they were going to do this, then I might not have accepted the position. One more thing, I was paid via direct deposit.
  11. I never faced a situation like this. It was apparently a government project. FEMA came in to clean up the mess left by Hurricane Florence. They used multiple staffing agencies to recruit people. They set up an office in Wilmington and had people assigned to distribute and collect the equipment used during the project by employees--the Debris Monitors (hand held device and small printer). That same group of staff members also recorded the time we worked each day, which could have been as much as 11 hours. I've been told by one tax person that I should talk to somebody in Florida about revising my info and provide me with a W-2 since the staffing agency I was working for happened to be based out of Florida. The only tax document I received was a 1099. Nothing had been taken out. There was only one amount listed on the 1099, which was the total amount I earned during the one month I was on the project.
  12. No PayrollHRGuy, they were actually hand written each week. Let me know if you would like to see an example. I think I still have some of them. To answer your question,, RetiredinVA, I wasn't sure what exactly could or couldn't be done at this point.
  13. Last September, I accepted a job that was referred to as a Debris Monitor. I was living in Wilmington, NC at the time. Hurricane Florence had just hit the area recently, and now the cleanup was beginning. The responsibility of my job was to watch a grapple-style dump truck (see image below) collect vegetative debris from the sides of residential streets. I worked this job for about a month before I was released. The job itself was in North Carolina. However, I was working through a staffing agency that was based out of Florida. FEMA was responsible for this entire project, which is why they had to hire people to do what my responsibility was. I watched a truck collect debris until it was completely full. I would then print out a ticket on a hand held device. This ticket was then given to the driver who would in turn give it to the person at the landfill once they arrived there to dump their load of debris. I recall filling out a Federal W-4 Form and also an NC-4 Employee's Withholding Allowance Certificate for North Carolina. I ended up receiving only a 1099 Form from the staffing agency, and no taxes of any kind had been taken out. I had earned about $3800, but when I began entering my info on Turbo Tax, I learned that I would owe the IRS about $340. I don't have that kind of money right now. I've tried contacting the Florida staffing agency to ask about this problem, but so far, I've received no reply. I would like to amend my tax return so that I can have taxes taken out of my earnings with this staffing agency and therefore not have to pay the IRS such a large amount. Is there any way I can somehow get a W-2?
  14. He didn't allow me to vent, not that I really expected that. All I did was ask the judge if I could possibly leave the court with documentation as to why this all began in the first place. He said that wasn't necessary because I agreed to comply with the no-contact order. Besides, I had already sent two copies of my answer to this civil summons to the Union County Court before the hearing itself. I'm hoping that documentation will be available to anybody who wishes to look further into this case, even if it's just for curiosity. It was very sad to walk up and stand beside a man I haven't seen in 8 years who was once my friend, but is now one of my worst enemies. I consented to the no-contact order against me and decided not to pursue it any further. I think that was more than enough. I drove three hours (one way) to answer to this civil summons. If anything, my former friend may think twice before he decides to pull a stunt like this again. He seemed pretty upset when I saw him collect his belongings at the back of the courtroom and leave after the hearing was over. He wasn't sticking around for anything. Fine! I don't give a sh*t. Let him be mad, but not at me...himself.
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