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  1. Hello, if you count, I think 8 posts down, the OP states.. So, I don’t think I was presuming anything by thinking the OP felt unhelped. i did not have a complaint about anyone, I was hoping to be helpful, as I described I was helped in a similar situation. i was not the person that originally brought this thread back to life, but did notice some harshness in other, more recent threads, so thought I would support madmom, ( obviously the smart one in this situation because she has moved on ) as I felt she was very civilized in her attempt to also point out the harshness that’s happening. my daughters situation ended up being a non issue....thank goodness. But, I would probably never recommend this board to patients who are searching for legal answers, not with the way ive seen questioners treated. And that’s a shame, because I’m sure there are many people who are here only to help. You know the saying...one bad apple... i purposely was never disrespectful, mean, or angry like the person I’ve been talking to. if you think the things he or she quips back with are productive in helping people and I, and others, are reading it wrong....well...I respectfully disagree. i never intended this to go on so long, I should have given up, sometimes people don’t care if someone wants to help them see things a different way. Point being, I probably should have DM’d or started a new thread. Lesson learned, but not needed. my effort and time is needed in real life, giving hugs, pats on backs, high fives and happy tears is what helping people is all about....not squabbling with premium and gold posters about rules and time limits on posting, while ignoring people who are hurting and reaching out to you for comfort in the way of experience and advice. peace
  2. Do you “OWN” this board? Can you kick me out? My existence on this board was the same as madmom....googled a custody question for my daughter...this thread came up. l Moved on, continued to see your responses on several threads, that were NOT 9 years old. just felt compelled to ask you why the hatefulness. wasnt meaning to start a problem, just thought maybe you didn’t realize how your responses come off to people who are in distress and looking for help. i guess you did know, and there’s no way, no how, you’re going to see things a different way. not sure it will matter to you, but... my work is to help people in all different situations and walks of life...has taught me a lot. my life.... have needed help/information, and received it both ways...nicely and hatefully. My spouse was fighting cancer. Of all places the Cancer Society chat board had a “helper” very similar to you. In a time that I needed help and turned to strangers who had gone through cancer, I was devastated by this persons response and left the board with no answers, feeling even more alone and scared and confused. received a notification of responses, and someone basically asked him what I originally asked you. HE owned up to has mistake, apologized and explained how his situation had gone downhill... HE received support from the group/board, and ended up helping me more than anyone. just thought maybe you didn’t realize...and that you probably have a situation in your story, and if you could get past the snarky remarks, you probably have a lot to offer. maybe I was wrong Hopefully I’m not
  3. Pg1067 this is a HELP board. threads will be available long after you’ve decided you’ve poked at enough people in their hour of need. moderators have the ability to close responses if old threads are such a problem if they’re posted on. maybe 7 years ago, the OP had a good resolution to her issue. MAYBE she’ll get notification that someone posted to this thread EIGHT AND A HALF YEARS AFTER SHE STARTED IT. maybe she’ll be able to come back here and give advice to someone that will help them... but, probably, she moved on to a different board where people are there to help, realizing that sadly, your help comes with humiliation, which she probably already feels and doesn’t need more of. if you really want to know why Madmom called out your abuse, just read your response to the OP....and put yourself in her shoes. You might learn something about helping people, or realize you’re just not good at it, and that’s okay, it takes a special kind of person to be empathetic and helpful to strangers. and...did she really “ATTACK” you?? I think no, seems she just pointed out that your responses probably aren’t helping, but hurting. just take a deep breath before responding to people...use your back button if you type out a hateful response, sometimes just typing it out helps with frustration, but you don’t have to post everything that comes to mind, especially hurtful/hateful/humiliating things. you can do it!! and....You’ll feel great REALLY helping people...
  4. No, I was more referring to a recent mother’s post where you replied that you got “bored” reading her story. And a few others I saw as I was clicking through the site... I could have posted my question on her thread, but thought you would look back in on this one to see if madmom responded to you. And, yes, you were mean eight and a half years ago. Or, if you don’t like mean, maybe snarky, rude or sarcastic would also fit. My point is only that People come to these boards full of panic, fright and feelings of helplessness. I get that it must be frustrating to read an OP that has missing information....but, it’s just as easy to type out the question you need answered as it is to type out quotes and rudeness. Ex. ...”I’m a mother” . We knew that. Please just have compassion. You’ll find yourself feeling happier about helping people.
  5. pg1067... why are you so mean when you respond to people’s questions?
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