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AuntMin

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  1. Hey, I wanted to thank you for posting. I'm so glad I happened upon this "old thread". I was poking around b/c I am the paternal aunt and legal guardian to my brother's 6 yr old boy. He's been with us full-time for about 2.5 years (on and off for periods since birth) and we were granted permanent legal guardianship about 1.5 yrs ago. His parents seem to have gotten themselves together somewhat in the last 6-8 months but I have no intention of giving up the permanency plan. His mother has already lost her other 4 boys and has a history of erratic behavior and felony convictions. My brother has spent 2 significant periods of time in prison, had substance abuse issues and has never consistently coexisted in society in his 46 years - I don't wish them bad but I wouldn't be surprised if it eventually all blew up again. I don't plan to let my nephew be around if/when it all goes down the tube (which has been the lifelong pattern). I won't go into all the details of how we got here but I do allow them to visit with him each Friday and I am letting him spend a chunk of Thanksgiving day with them (thanks to a gps watch I have him wear). I was trying to find people similarly situated b/c I often second guess whether I'm making the right decisions. Thanksgiving for example...I'm so nervous to leave him - it will be from 11 -4. I struggle with wishing they were completely out of the picture and wanting him to know his parents love him. When they were MIA from his life for about a year, he was thriving. We had him in counseling and it was recommended he stop because he was doing so well. Since the visits started back up in the Spring, he acts out and is exhibiting the same angry behavior as when placement first began and we've reinstated the counseling sessions. He loves us tremendously but doesn't understand why he isn't living with his parents. We are working with his therapist on this but it's hard. Again, just looking to connect with similarly situated folks to bounce things off of.
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