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  1. FormerLegalSecy

    Rumors About My Health

    I'm sorry to hear about your sister and your other sister's friend, Tax. I don't really know much about Lyme Disease but I'm learning more about it now. My dr mentioned that there are a couple of ongoing clinical trials for people who've already been treated but still have symptoms. I am being treated as an outpatient at a research and teaching hospital so I had asked about clinical trials. I'm hoping I won't ever be eligible for them (treated but still have symptoms) but maybe your sister and your other sister's friend should ask about that? They have my sympathy, it is definitely no fun.
  2. FormerLegalSecy

    Rumors About My Health

    Follow-up: When I had a spinal tap they discovered that my spinal fluid was infected with Lyme Disease. Then they found heart and kidney abnormalities consistent with Late Lyme Disease. So I am starting on 3-4 weeks of IV antibiotics (gee, happy holidays) and working from home part time. So much for keeping my personal health issues private. At least I have good health insurance and I can have the IV treatment at home. They don't know if Lyme Disease is what caused all my symptoms or not, but the Lyme Disease needs to be treated either way, and the neuro thinks there is a good chance that may do the trick. I hope so.
  3. FormerLegalSecy

    Rumors About My Health

    Thank you Tax. You are of course right. I suspect you are a very good lawyer because you have a way of explaining things so that even if the listener doesn't want to agree with you it's hard to deny that what you are saying makes sense.
  4. FormerLegalSecy

    Rumors About My Health

    Okay, thank you everybody. It is embarrassing to even write about this here. My main symptom is that sometimes my legs feel abnormally heavy like as if they are 100 lb rocks instead of legs, and sometimes gripping things when I have to squeeze hard to do it is a challenge (like using a manual can opener). But those are mostly internal feelings, not something others would notice outwardly unless they were really watching me, which it often seems like they are. Yes, when my legs feel like 100 lb concrete blocks I change my routine a little. Like if I have to walk around the office or the building picking up documents or mail or something I plan my route before I go so that I only have to get up and walk around once instead of several times, and I plan the shortest route with the least steps before I do it. When I schedule meetings I schedule them closer to my office instead of on a different floor or in a different building. I come in early so that I can park as close as possible to the building instead of a long way away. Sometimes when I stand up it takes an extra couple of seconds to make sure I have my balance and am mentally prepared to put the extra effort into each step because if I just jump up and don't think about it ahead of time that makes me more likely to trip or stumble. Honestly, I know I'm doing these things but unless somebody was particularly eyeballing me trying to "catch" me doing them I don't think anyone would notice. They do not affect my work. For example a couple of weeks ago I had to give an hour long presentation standing up and on that particular day my legs weren't feeling totally wonderful and I wasn't sure I'd be able to do it, but I did. Some times I feel almost totally normal and then some other days are not as great, but I really don't think it is affecting my work and I don't want my health to be a topic of workplace conversation. I also applied for a promotion recently that I know I was qualified for and I didn't get it. There could be a million reasons why not. Maybe I think more highly of my own qualifications than I should, or maybe my interview went a lot worse than I thought it did. But I get paranoid that maybe I didn't get it because of the rumors and speculations about my health, and I hate that. I'd rather be told that I didn't get it because I'm not qualified than "suspect" that I didn't get it for some reason related to office speculation about my health. I would never know if somebody on the hiring committee might have commented something like, "Yes, but this is a demanding job, is she really up to it, y'know, physically?" unless somebody leaked that info, which nobody has. But the reason I was given was strange. They said that "at a different time" I'd be a great fit for that position but "the timing wasn't right" so they selected somebody else. What does that mean? (I wasn't offered any further explanation.) It's frustrating.
  5. FormerLegalSecy

    Rumors About My Health

    Thank you TA, that was helpful. I have seen a neurologist. The neurologist said there is not enough history yet to make a diagnosis. I have had a couple of episodes of unexplained muscle weakness and other symptoms that could also be plenty of other things too. The neuro mentioned MS but said it is too soon to make that diagnosis. Basically they have to rule out everything else first, which has not been done yet. They did tests and ruled out a brain tumor etc. They said I had low levels of potassium & told me to eat more bananas which I am doing. But basically right now it is wait & see. They said it could completely go away and I might never have any other issues. Or lots of other things. They also tested me for other stuff that was all negative. My co-workers noticed not because I was unable to do my work but because of a dumb episode on a hot day where a number of people all had to go to another location. I wanted to take my own car, which I knew I could do, but my boss insisted that everybody go in his SUV. I really didn't want to but everybody kept saying oh come on let's go, we're going to be late, hurry up (etc., etc.). The problem is that the SUV is a very high vehicle with a large step up and on that particular day I couldn't lift my legs high enough to get into the vehicle. I tried to pull myself up with my arms but didn't have a good grip and in the end with everybody watching I wound up having to basically roll onto the floor in the back and then hike myself up into a seat, which was hard. It seemed like the more embarrassed and humiliated I was the less my body wanted to cooperate, which could just be psychological. I wound up having to have co-workers help pull me into a seat. It was horribly embarrassing. After that they started noticing every little thing about how I walk or move or if I ever drop anything, etc.. Most of the time I feel pretty much fine, or if I notice anything it would only be noticeable to me if everybody else wasn't watching me like a hawk. I am getting to hate going to work because I feel like people are just waiting to "catch me" dropping something or tripping over a carpet or something. I hope I don't have MS but the neuro said even if I do there are some very effective drugs for treating the symptoms of it now, but I don't have that diagnosis yet. Mostly I just want people to leave me alone. Whatever the problem is, I feel that its personal and I don't want it to be a subject of workplace discussion or speculation. Union: I was a Union steward years ago but my Governor effectively killed off public sector employee Unions in 2011. I am no longer in or represented by a Union and there is no Union contract. There are only a couple of smaller Unions left and mine is not one of them.
  6. FormerLegalSecy

    Rumors About My Health

    Okay, more to the point. I doubt if they are speculating about whether I have the flu. I suspect that they are speculating about whether or not I have MS given some of the issues I've been experiencing. I do not have an answer to that question myself, nor do I wish to discuss it with my employer before, or maybe even after, I have any answers.
  7. I was told by a workplace friend who works in HR that "everybody is all worried about my health." I am having some health issues but I am dealing with it. I have not missed any work or requested any accommodations. I am doing my job as assigned and frankly I don't think whatever health issues I may be having are anybody's business so long as I am able to do my job, nor do I want to discuss it with my employer. It bothers me that people are talking about my health, apparently with HR. Not that it matters, but in case anybody was wondering it is a physical health thing, not a mental health thing. (I realize that sometimes a person might have a mental health issue that affected their work without them realizing it, but that is not the case in this situation.) Are my manager and/or HR allowed to just speculate about my health and/or discuss it and/or make decisions (?) based on their speculations about it like that? Would that fall under ADA under the heading of "being regarded as" having a disability (whether or not one actually does)?
  8. My elderly mother lives in a state that allows physician assisted suicide. She has arthritis in her knee which causes her pain and makes it hard to walk. She has said she does not want a knee replacement. Actually she has a reason that she doesn't want just about every possible treatment her doctor suggests. She told me she wants assisted suicide because she'd rather "die with dignity" than have to use a cane or a walker. Does she get to make that choice? She is not terminally ill, but she thinks she is because in her way of thinking just the fact that she's getting older is terminal. She has had depression in the past and I think she has it again. But she just starts yelling at me and telling me I am being disrespectful when I suggest talking to her doctor about depression. She says she is not depressed, or even if she is it is caused by the pain in her knee, so all the more reason to die with dignity rather than continuing to suffer. If you can't tell from how I am writing this, I think her reasoning is totally ridiculous. (She would say I just don't understand and I am being cruel by not supporting her wishes.) In my opinion she needs treatment for her depression and treatment for her knee if she wants it. She is not terminally ill and it is beyond stupid to be thinking about suicide just because you are too much of a snob to let the neighbors see you using a cane. Do I get to have any say in this? I am her oldest child and have Health Care Power of Attorney in the event that she is unable to express her own wishes. But she is not unable to do that so my Health Care POA means nothing right now. Her doctor won't discuss her health with me for privacy reasons (she probably told him not to) and I'm afraid she'll talk him into this suicide idea because it is legal in her state and she is very manipulative. Do I have any legal rights or ability to prevent this?
  9. FormerLegalSecy

    In The News

    Interesting. Thanks. .
  10. FormerLegalSecy

    In The News

    The Chancellor's husband at one of our state colleges was found to have sexually harassed other college employees (not students, I don't think). He was stripped of his $0 appointment to a position as "Associate to the Chancellor" (or something like that), barred from attending college functions, and banned from the campus. The Chancellor said she supported this action and would enforce it. Now one of our State Senators is calling for the Chancellor to be fired from her job due to her husband's inappropriate behavior. I do understand at will employment, but wouldn't it be illegal to fire an employee (any employee actually) because of the behavior of their spouse? Isn't that discrimination based on marital status? They live in a house provided by the college and I could see telling them that they had to find other housing because the Chancellor's house is college property, from which the husband is banned. But my state has a state law that says, "... no employer […] may engage in any act of employment discrimination […] against any individual on the basis of age, race, creed, color, disability, marital status, sex, national origin, ancestry, arrest record, conviction record, military service, use or nonuse of lawful products off the employer's premises during nonworking hours, or declining to attend a meeting or to participate in any communication about religious matters or political matters. " Wouldn't firing a college Chancellor because her husband sexually harassed (multiple) employees violate that state statute? There was never any allegation that the Chancellor did anything wrong; it was her husband that did. This doesn't involve me directly in any way (except as a taxpayer). I'm just curious whether they could actually fire her for that.
  11. FormerLegalSecy

    Right to Cancel?

    Thanks, that's kind of what I figured.
  12. FormerLegalSecy

    Right to Cancel?

    My state has a 3-day right to cancel certain consumer contracts which I already know about. It is here: https://docs.legis.wisconsin.gov/statutes/statutes/423 My neighbor invited a home improvement company to his home to give him an estimate on replacing his gutters and installing gutter leaf guards. He haggled with the guy who was giving him the estimate and negotiated a price somewhat less than what the estimate originally was going to be. Then he signed a contract to have the work done. Now he's had a change of heart and wants to cancel the contract. He said the merchant didn't give him a notice of his right to cancel. I believe that it's because he doesn't have a right to cancel, at least not under the WI law cited above. He believes its because the merchant is crooked. I could be all wet. I'm not a lawyer. But I believe that because my neighbor called the merchant at the merchant's place of business to request an estimate, the fact that the merchant had to come to his home to look at it in order to give the estimate might not necessarily trigger the "right to cancel" because the transaction was not "initiated by face-to-face solicitation away from a regular place of business of the merchant or by mail or telephone solicitation directed to the particular customer." I don't think the fact that they haggled over the price in the neighbor's driveway changes the fact that it was my neighbor who initiated the transaction by calling the merchant at the merchant's place of business. It would be great if I were wrong. Am I?
  13. FormerLegalSecy

    Possible Medical Malpractice?

    Sorry. Wisconsin.
  14. FormerLegalSecy

    Possible Medical Malpractice?

    A co-worker of mine had a colonoscopy 3 years ago at a younger age than usual because of a family history of colon cancer. They removed several polyps and wrote in the medical record that there was a "large polyp" that they couldn't remove during the colonoscopy. Then they told her to come back in 3 years. Meanwhile she was going to her own primary care doctor, a gynecologist, with increasingly severe pain and other symptoms. Often she was in too much pain to come to work, or had to go home because of the pain. She was tested for all kinds of gynecological problems and told to exercise, eat healthier, and reduce stress. When she went for the next scheduled colonoscopy 3 years later they found a large mass which turned out to be a tumor in the exact place where the "polyp" was that they hadn't been able to remove at her previous colonoscopy, and in the exact place where she'd been experiencing increasingly severe pain for the past 3 years. She underwent surgery for colon cancer last week and is awaiting staging info and treatment options. I'm no doctor but it sounds to me like somebody dropped the ball. Even if the colonoscopy dr. 3 years ago forgot to recommend more frequent follow-ups for the one they "couldn't remove," shouldn't her primary care dr, even if a gynecologist, have read the colonoscopy report and been a little suspicious about that "polyp" that they couldn't remove, especially when it was in the exact spot where she was experiencing pain, and when tests for other things like endometriosis and fibroids and ovarian cysts, etc., kept coming back negative? I mean, she's got enough on her plate now just dealing with whatever comes next, so I don't want to just cause her more stress. But I feel like at some point somebody ought to suggest that she talk to a lawyer. Am I off-base here?
  15. FormerLegalSecy

    Windshield Damaged Possibly by Storm

    Okay, off to go find the warranty. I know I have it someplace. Thanks.
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