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  1. ElleMD

    Evil step father

    I'm still not sure what you want to take in front of a judge. The only thing you have that is potentially actionable is the current property you may jointly own with your step father. All the rest of this is simply not. You probably had a good cause to get a restraining order or at the very least contact the police when you were being shot at and or having bombs left for you as you allege. You could have called the police when Carl pulled a gun when you knocked on the door of your house, assuming you really are an owner (it isn't clear how/if you actually own it. You mention a will but also probate. If there was a will, ownership would be according to the will). It would still be a police/criminal matter, but 40 years later it isn't clear what if anything law enforcement even could do about your allegations. Even in 1989, $150K wasn't going to go far. Certainly not homes, boats, cars, etc. I would be shocked if anything at all is left or even last into the 2000's.
  2. I'm not clear what exactly you are asking. Are you only asking about retired law enforcement officers being hired directly by public school systems to provide armed security? That is awfully specific. You aren't going to find any state with a law that narrowing focused. Public schools are MUCH more likely to partner with local law enforcement and have sworn officers (armed or not) provide security. This was true pre-Columbine as well, though the number of districts with such partnerships has increased as has the number of officers assigned on a "permanent" or more consistent basis (as opposed to just being there for special events or stopping by as part of their usual beat). FWIW, Columbine had armed security on-site. So have most of the schools that have had shootings (the majority of shootings being in secondary schools which are much more likely to have officers on campus than primary schools). Every state allows active duty LEOs to carry weapons on campus, for reasons which should be obvious. Some LEAs opt to carry non-lethal weapons such as pepper spray, tasers, or mace. To my knowledge, no state codifies this (and if they did, I would almost assuredly hear about it), nor does any school system outright ban the presence of weapons carried by active law enforcement. Some states do have CCW laws which address adults in schools, either specifically or by default. It is not unique to retired LEOs hired as security. https://www.inverse.com/article/41606-which-states-allow-teachers-to-carry-guns The title is slightly misleading as it is also not unique to just teachers. http://lawcenter.giffords.org/gun-laws/policy-areas/guns-in-public/guns-in-schools/ https://nces.ed.gov/programs/digest/d17/tables/dt17_233.70.asp?current=yes
  3. The agency isn't demanding anything. They are informing you that you are not eligible for benefits for a month in which the child in not living in the home at all. You have the option of forgoing benefits while the child is not living with you. In fact, that is your only option as you may not violate a court order. You can file with the court to amend the order, but it would be up to a judge to decide if your ability to keep benefits for that month trumps the other parent's right to parenting time (I would not be optimistic).
  4. ElleMD

    inequality with foster parents

    How does one "reduce equality"? I don't even know what you are trying to say here.
  5. ElleMD

    Evil step father

    This whole saga sounds like a bad TV movie and it is unclear what exactly you are hoping to accomplish. If you were crazy enough to hand over your inheritance to a criminal, you basically gave him a gift. Your verbal agreement that he would leave you whatever he couldn't manage to spend by the time he died is legally meaningless. It isn't clear by what means you co-own this property. Is your name on the deed along with his? I'd strongly suggest taking whatever legal documents you have (wills, deeds, etc.) and sitting down with a lawyer in your area to figure out your options. Walking away might be your best option.
  6. ElleMD

    Protective order in other state

    It is really difficult to understand your posts. Your son has a child with a woman in CA and at some point while in CA, he got into a physical altercation with her. She filed for a protective order. 1. Was one granted? 2. If it was granted, why would he even think about violating it? Ignore her calls/texts/FB posts/instagram/smoke signals/and singing telegrams. If he violates the order, that is on him. "She contacted me", is not a good reason to violate the order. He does have an opportunity to challenge the issuance of the protective order in court and it is up to him whether or not he does so. He will need to appear in court and really needs to hire an attorney, especially if there is also a child and custody issues involved. 3. If one hasn't been granted yet, but has just been filed, AND he has some reason to actually fear this person, he is welcome to file a police report and or request the court issue a protective order against her. The fact that he left the state without having done so is a bit of a hurdle but he can talk to an attorney about this option if he truly believes he is at risk from this person.
  7. It isn't clear if you are X, Y, or Q. It isn't clear why the victim would contact the abuser at all in this scenario, but there is no law preventing it (common sense would dictate it would be a horrible idea, but the law doesn't require one show good sense and judgment).
  8. ElleMD

    Dispute Legal Fees During a Divorce

    I'm not entirely clear what you are asking for here. If you disagreed with the rate your attorney was charging, you find another attorney. The judge can't "make" your ex do anything. They can create legal consequences for not following court orders but that is it. If you went into this expecting revenge for 30 years of a bad marriage, you had misplaced expectations. That is not the purpose of divorce nor alimony/divorce settlement/division of assets (it isn't clear what this monthly amount was for). A divorce is to end a marriage one or both parties no longer wish to be part of for grounds which allow for a dissolution of that marriage in your state. The settlement is to equitably divide the assets of the marriage. If alimony is awarded, while it varies by state and circumstances, the purpose is generally to allow the receiving spouse to have a cushion until they are able to become self-sufficient and self-supporting. The guideline in NY is no longer than 50% of the duration of the marriage.
  9. ElleMD

    Investigating County Has No Investigation?

    Your problem here is that you are operating from the assumption that somebody has to be responsible for your daughter's death, other than your daughter and or mother nature/God/fate. Your daughter evidently was an inmate because if she wasn't she wouldn't have been incarcerated to begin with. It isn't clear if she knew she had a medical condition and clearly articulated to anyone that she was experiencing symptoms of that condition or if she had what are fairly ordinary symptoms of any number of benign conditions and in her case it was one of the rare instances where that was not true. Certainly being nauseous and vomiting then getting a headache is pretty common and 99% of the time it is not indicative of anything fatal. Bruising can take days to appear so even if it was present when she died and not when during the mug shot, there isn't a clear indicating when the injury took place. It could have been in the days prior to the arrest, during whatever it was that caused her to be arrested, during the arrest process, or at some other time. Even knowing she was in a fight or had an accident that caused bruising wouldn't automatically translate to the county being responsible for her death.
  10. Is the wife the mother of the daughter?
  11. ElleMD

    Privacy invasion

    Names and addresses can be found on any number of public sites, not to mention the phone book. Someone putting it on their site is not illegal. If your photos were not privacy protected then anyone can access them. I'd limit what goes online and make sure your privacy settings are such that what is out there can only be seen by those you want to have access.
  12. ElleMD

    Medical privacy

    What did this employee say and why? It makes a difference.
  13. So I understand you correctly, these employees would be working in the UK entirely, and would be citizens of the UK (or at least have legal authorization to perform work in the UK)? If so, that is entirely legal. Your biggest hurdle will be paying them if you do not already have international payroll capabilities.
  14. You can think they should be more understanding about not being able to wear perfumed products but on the flip side, you are the only one with this issue and you are asking them to do something differently because of you. Some will do so willingly. Others will do so but resent that they can't use their favorite product. Others will just not see it as *their* problem. Some of it can be in the approach and how you ask for their cooperation too. I handle these issues daily and have seen every sort of reaction to such requests. No one likes to be told they can't use their favorite perfume, lotion, shampoo, after shave, hair product, deodorant, etc. That is why specificity is needed. I would question a doctor who couldn't tell you what it is you are sensitive to and who only tells you to avoid fragrances entirely. Speaking from 20 years of experience managing disability issues in the workplace, such notes are typically not based on sound medical testing but are the type of notes most doctors just write because a patient requests one. Yours might not have done that, but it is curious if true allergy testing had been done and a disability confirmed, why the note is not written as such. Basically, your doctor is doing you no favors here and making it even more difficult for your employer to accommodate you, and for you to request a reasonable and effective accommodation. I find it interesting that you want your coworkers to be understanding of your condition but complain about your hard of hearing coworker talking "too loudly". Unless you are his supervisor, you need to stop worrying about how he spends his time at work and focus on your own tasks. If he is directly engaging with you and you need to be working on something else, a polite, "John, I would love to chat but I really need to finish this." is all you need.
  15. If your condition rises to the level of a disability under ADA, then you are entitled to a reasonable accommodation. It isn't clear if your condition would fall under ADA or not. You would likely need to provide medical documentation from a doctor to verify the existence of a disability as well as the scope. Just saying "all scents" isn't going to be reasonable. If you have treated with a doctor or allergist, you would have a list of what scents or chemicals you are sensitive to so those could be mitigated. If you are entitled to an accommodation, it need not be the one you would prefer. So, you aren't guaranteed the office space of your choosing and it may not be reasonable to ban all fragrances in the office, particularly if you deal with outside parties or there is public access to the building. Talk to your doctor about what might be reasonable. Perhaps a mask or air filter will help. It *might* be reasonable to ask coworkers to limit the use of certain fragrances, but there is nothing in the law that requires them to be happy about not being able to use their favorite products. There aren't any generic laws prohibiting bullying or requiring general civility in the workplace. If this guy is loud and obnoxious by nature, you can't make him change because you don't like it. Neither can your supervisor require him to change his personality. It is not HR's job to make grown adults play nice with one another. If he or anyone else is doing something that bothers you, tell him and politely request that he stop. As you are both older, he might not realize you are sensitive about your age. If you approach him and say, "John, I would appreciate it if you did not make comments about my age. They make me feel uncomfortable.", chances are good he will stop.