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Visitation for father

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Daughter just had a baby. He was a premie. Wasn't due til yesterday came 5 weeks early. The father wanted to take the baby to visit his family that live 2 hours away. They agreed that both mom and dad would take the baby to visit grandparents but all of a sudden dad wanted to go himself. Daughter feels uncomfortable especially since she is primary caretaker. (dad visits on weekends ) and mom has not left the baby's side since having him. He is also breastfed so I would think that mom would want to be there for him. 

Dad is starting to threaten to go for custody which scares the mom. His favorite saying is " money talks" he has been helping support the baby . Father's name is not on birth certificate . 

 

Would it be to her best advantage to go for sole custody ? This baby is only 5 weeks old. Who knows what is going to happen in the future ? 

What is a good way to let the father know that this baby is too young to leave his mother for the weekend. 

Any suggestions would be appreciated. 

 

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Absent court action declaring dad the legal father and giving him visitation rights (along with an order for him to pay support), mom has full custody of the child and full control over who visits and when.  It's insane for dad to suggest driving a 5 week old preemie 2 hours anywhere--4 hours round trip, especially without the mother.  At this point in time, she can just say no.  She needs to go to court and get custody/visitation and support established.  It's likely that the court would order joint legal custody but physical custody with mom and dad gets visits.  She needs to consult a local attorney to protect herself and the child. 

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On 4/9/2017 at 6:54 AM, Grandmom_of_4 said:

Would it be to her best advantage to go for sole custody ?

 

I don't know what you mean by "best advantage," but it certainly would be smart for both parents to seek court orders regarding custody, visitation, and support.

 

 

On 4/9/2017 at 6:54 AM, Grandmom_of_4 said:

What is a good way to let the father know that this baby is too young to leave his mother for the weekend.

 

I have no idea what you're asking here.  Your daughter is free to express her opinion in whatever way she wants.

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