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[gwood11]

I have a 6 month old baby with a man who has not claimed paternity either by admission nor DNA test.
I am suing him for paternity and support. meanwhile the court has ordered visitation. My question is this: does he have a right to take my daughter anywhere he wishes without my consent and at the very least shouldn't I be informed of her whereabouts even if he does not need my permission? I have also seen him improperly use her car seat, she is not securely strapped in and the location of the seat is in the wrong place.I have to argue with him every time to do her up right which makes me believe he is not doing it right out of my presence. Is there anything I can do about this?
Also, do his friends have a right to post pictures of my daughter on social media sites or the internet without my permission? He is not the legal father at this time and, in my opinion, should not be allowed to give permission.

[Ted_from_Texas]

Where the father takes the child during visits is totally up to him, and he need not inform you of their whereabouts, absent provisions in the custody order that say otherwise.  If you have reason to believe he is endangering the child during visits, you are free to bring that to the attention of the court.

You are also free to inform the police who can stop him and cite him appropriately if the child is not properly secured in her car seat.  As a practical matter, that means you or someone else will probably have to follow him around and keep an eye on him.

[pg1067]

gwood11 said...

the court has ordered visitation. My question is this: does he have a right to take my daughter anywhere he wishes without my consent and at the very least shouldn't I be informed of her whereabouts even if he does not need my permission?

What he can and cannot do during his court-ordered visitation time depends entirely on the terms of the visitation order (and possibly also the laws of your unidentified state).  Note that the fact that the court has ordered visitation suggests that it believes that paternity will be proven.

gwood11 said...

I have also seen him improperly use her car seat, she is not securely strapped in and the location of the seat is in the wrong place.I have to argue with him every time to do her up right which makes me believe he is not doing it right out of my presence. Is there anything I can do about this?

You're free to raise the issue with the court.

gwood11 said...

Also, do his friends have a right to post pictures of my daughter on social media sites or the internet without my permission?

Yes.

It seems to me that you're going to have to get used to the fact that, when the child is visiting with her father, you will not be able to control what happens.  You're the one who chose to have a child with this guy.  That you may now regret that decision makes no difference.

[JanetR1965]

If you do not think he is mature enough for parenthood why pursue the paternity/child support?  Just let him be who he is and you raise your child accodingly.  Of course, keep your child in mind and allow your child to grow to know his/her father, but this way you will have more of a say-so in where he can take the child, etc.  You may not get child support, but which would you rather have.. child support or the comfort of knowing your child is safe?

Then again, ask yourself the question- is he unfit unsafe?   Think hard on this and do what you feel is right for your child.