Posted 23 March 2011 - 05:08 AM
Posted 23 March 2011 - 06:36 AM
"Can I here and VA not being ever married ..."
I'm sorry, but that makes absolutely no sense whatever.
You are certainly not liable for any of the mother's prenatal and perinatal medical expenses. Those are hers and hers alone.
You are also not responsible for child support retroactive to the date the mother (or whoever) filed the action for paternity and child support. Depending on when the filing took place, worst case you could have to pay back to near the time of the child's birth.
You may not, however, unilaterally relinquish your parental rights. You may choose not to have anything to do with the child, that's your call, but because you are the father you are stuck with the obligation to support the child in accordance with the applicable state's child support guidelines until (a) the child becomes an adult, or ( some other man steps forward to adopt the child as his own.
A local family law attorney can advise you of your rights and possible options regarding custody, visitation and child support.
Posted 23 March 2011 - 06:44 AM
Posted 23 March 2011 - 07:02 AM
Posted 23 March 2011 - 10:51 AM
She wants back support and back pay for medical bills for pregnancy and birth.
Even if she had been sure that you were the father, she wouldn't be entitled to payment of any portion of the expenses associated with pregnancy and birth. As for back support, she can only get support retroactive to the date of filing a petition for a support order. In other words, if she has not filed to initiate child support proceedings, she can't be any "back support."
i would like to relinquish my rights. Can I here and VA not being ever married and if so will i still have to pay current support?
You are free not to exercise your parental rights. However, whether or not you exercise your parental rights, you will still have to pay child support if the mother obtains a support order. You cannot run around fathering children and just walk away from your support obligations by "relinquish[ing] [your] rights (and, in fact, you cannot "relinquish [your] rights" except to the extent that, if some other man is willing to be a father to the child and adopt the child, you can consent to the adoption).
Posted 26 March 2011 - 07:39 AM
Posted 28 March 2011 - 03:26 AM
Yes as of now you have to pay child support and it'll most likely be back dated to the day the child was born.
As my response and other of the other responses indicated, this is wrong. Federal law prohibits an order of back child support to be retroactive any further back than the date of filing the application or petition to obtain support. In other words, if a child is born on January 1, and Parent A files a petition for child support on July 1, and the court enters a support order on August 1, the court can order Parent B to pay child support retroactive to July 1. But the court cannot legally order support retroactive to the date of birth (or any other earlier date).
And yes you CAN reliquish your rights. First you have to get a lawyer, then you have to get the mother to agree to signing the papers, which would mean she would no longer receive child support.
This is also wrong. "Staceyjf": I strongly suggest you not post when you don't know what you're talking about. And, if you're going to contradict previous responses, you should at least explain the legal reasoning behind what you're saying. No state permits what you're suggesting (although it is a fairly common myth).