Custody Stipulations Mother's Rights
Posted 04 January 2011 - 02:35 AM
Posted 04 January 2011 - 03:15 AM
The only thing I've ever wanted from him in regards to the baby is to inform me of what is going on with the baby and who will be around the child when I'm not there, I have also offered this information to him. My question is, is this something that can be stipulated in a custody order, for us to inform each other of who is around the child and basic information regarding the child's well being?
You can agree to just about anything. The court may or may not adopt it. A requirement that each of you inform the other about "what is going on with the baby" is completely vague and, as a result, could not be enforced. A requirement that each of you inform the other "who will be [or were] around the child" when the child is in each of your custody would be, in my opinion, unreasonable. If you both agreed to that, a court probably would sign off on it. However, if he were to object, I doubt any court would order it over his objection. If there's a particular person or group of persons whom you believe pose a threat to your child's safety or health, then the better approach would be to seek an order expressly prohibiting contact with these persons. Of course, you'd need some pretty compelling evidence that these are bad people. "Basic information regarding the child's well being" is also too vague to enforce. Court orders need to be specific in order to be enforceable.
I have told him that until he can be forthright with requested information I would prefer that he visit the baby in my home for as long as he likes.
That's fine until he takes the matter court.
I'm also wondering what kind of custody agreement the court may order and what my rights are as a mother until this does go to court.
I'm not really sure what you're asking here. It's very vague.
Also, will they require him to pay child support as I have not asked him for any thus far as he has been paying all of the baby's expenses since I am still on disability.
I've never heard of a CA court making a custody and visitation order without also making an order regarding child support.
I would like to stipulate that the baby lives with me however sees the father as much as posible without overnight visits until a certain age as I am solely breastfeeding. Is this a reasonable, legal request?
It's not necessarily unreasonable, but your desire to breastfeed doesn't trump the father's rights. That's not to say some courts wouldn't grant the request, but you can always express milk for him to feed the baby while it's in his custody.