When the state went after his father for child support, he took me to court regarding paternity, custody issues, etc.. At the time he requested that our sons last name be changed to his. I was completely against it, as he wasn't present at the birth or for some years after. The commissioner was, in my opinion, very unfair, in that he pretty much forced to be agreeable to having his last name somewhere in his name, or he would decide on it himself. I gave in to hyphenating his last name on to mine.
As our son has gotten older, the last name has become an issue. Our son doesn't have the greatest relationship with his dad. He doesn't participate in his life (sports, school, etc.), unless it "his" weekend. So basically he has chosen to parent only on his time. My son is now 10 years old and has pretty much gotten used to his father not participating much. He doesn't even want to go to his house every other weekend because he just doesn't feel comfortable with him...anyhow...my son has identified with my last name, I suppose, because I am the one involved in every aspect of his life.
The last couple of years, when enrolling our son in sports we only sign him up using my last name...it's how everyone knows him and how he feels comfortable. Well his dad has begun to make a big stink about it and emailing his coaches to change the registration form, rosters, and everything else to his "legal last name". This even though he rarely comes to watch him play and it would have to be on "his weekend". My son is really upset about all this because he doesn't want them announcing them with both names.
So....my question is, do I have to sign him up for sports with both last names? His medical and school records all use the hyphenated last name, but would this be a legal situation if I opt to just use my last name for sports? The court order only states the change from his original name to the hyphenated one, but isn't specific as to when it has to be used. A second question would be, at any point, would our son be able to drop his fathers name and only use mine?